I am tired of winter.....

      My closest friends in SL know that I live in a very crappy place during the winter.  I may see snow from October to end of April..(Yes, the end of April.)  This year I am living in the city with the highest snowfall in the USA.  I guess if you are going to deal with the snow, you should be the most.  (As of yesterday, I am at 133 inches or a little over 11 feet )  I guess I could deal with the snow if it wasn't so "fricken" cold.
                                                                                                                                                               




   So I tend to be crabby more on SL during this period because I am so tired of the weather.   (Also jealous that my SL partner lives in a very sunny and warm Southern California city)

    So my friends in SL that think I am just unbearable to be around right now, I apologize with all my heart.

The only thing I can look forward to is the fact that....

8 more days until the first pitch

(Granted the first month, we will watching from the stands in parkas and mittens)

Just for fun for the baseball fans:  Top ten closer entrance songs

Profile whoring...I feel like I need to shower with a Brillo pad

   When I am bored in SL, I love to sit somewhere crowded and just read profiles.  I like to think its kinda like facebook.  People try to create an illusion or use their profiles to sometimes to set an agenda.  Well I complied a list of things that should be banned because of their overuse:

     1.  The 14 year old girl holding hands with her 3 year old son, the one you just called a slut... She was raped at the age of 11.  The girl you just called fat...shes overdosing on diet pills.  The girl you just called ugly... she spends hours putting makeup on hoping people will like her.  The boy you just tripped... he is abused enough at home.  See that man with the ugly scars... he fought for his country.  That guy you just made fun of for crying... his mother is dying. 
                                         Put this in your picks if you're against bullying.

       Don't get me wrong....I am against bullying for several reasons BUT when you see the same message 50 million times, it kinda loses its impact.

      2.  IM me, I don't bite but may nibble a little

       UGH......I don't even have to explain this but if I do, you have it in your profile.

      3.  The separation of RL and SL...

        I never really understood that one.  What do you talk about in SL.  Now I am not saying, you need   to give out every personal detail of your life to put yourself in some potential harm but not sharing anything about yourself.. *rolls eyes*

      4.  I am a submissive....I am not a doormat, stupid etc.
       
          I hate, hate (did I mention I hate..) this one.  *Pulls you closer and whispers in your ear*  "If someone is treating you this way, maybe you are allowing them.."

                                                            See you all later

AND SCRUBBING YOU WITH  A BRILLO PAD...

The unromantic Lola ...

        My last post was actually written during the past month, but I never posted.  I really did not know what direction to go with it.   It made me sound slightly pessimistic,which I guess I am at times.  In fact, I know many people in the SL world with very successful online relationships. Even the unromantic Lola is currently in one.

        I know I can feel the "eyes rolls" as you read that last statement. Yes, even I have caught the SL "love bug".  No, we did not have a big fancy wedding with wedding videos.  (Ok, I found a Las Vegas wedding chapel for fun...We got married by Elvis)  We didn't have an elaborate collar ceremony with me kneeling at his feet as tears fell from my eyes.       
We just became "we".  (This is actually true..we debated on an anniversary date because we just happened)
       Am I an expert in relationships....not even close.  I just know what has worked for us. Quite honestly from a realistic stand point, we should not have worked as long as we did. We both live on separate coasts.  He is married to his rl job and as I remind him, I am merely his "mistress".  In the end, we just make it work.  So sometimes we argue (We don't talk about last year's Superbowl) and sometimes, one of us falls asleep but the most important thing, we try.  We both realize we have a RL and things that take priority, but nothing puts a smile on my face more than a little im from him at work.  I like reminding him that lunch at his desk is not always a healthy option in the long term.  I like to think we just take it one day at a time..1825 + days so far. 

Love me for forever...or until you are bored?

    The Second Life experience can be very much a "second life" or even a "first life" for many people that log into SL daily.  One of those aspects is relationships.  What I noticed in SL is that people are either trying to establish one or avoiding one.  I have read several profiles of members that are in relationships on SL.  How can you tell?  Oh.... here are Lola's observations:

1. Several pictures of them together
2. Many..many youtube links of  "their songs"
3. Romantic poetry,either written by SL member or copied from someone.
4. Group ownership so they can write "cutesy" tags as "Lola's Love Muffin"                                      

     Partnerships in SL can be simple or complex.  It all depends on the way a person perceives SL.  I read once that an average relationship on SL lasts 6 months. It is a long standing joke that within the month of partnering, they will be done.  Weddings in SL can be as expensive as RL ones.  (check out Youtube for SL wedding videos...I am not joking...).  I have been to gay weddings, threesome weddings and of course, the traditional ones,  I have heard some incredible vows and some that made me laugh. Out of all those weddings, none of them survived longer than a month afterwards. 

     So what about me?  I think I am a very down to earth.  I have a few people call me cold hearted and aloof.  I think I am just realistic.  I do not believe that you can fall in love with a person at first sight or even two weeks later.  In my world, that is called LUST.

                    Lust: 

     1.  intense sexual desire or appetite.          

    2.  uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite; lecherousness.

    3.  a passionate or overmastering desire or craving.

       

     If you look at my handy, dandy definition courtesy of dictionary.com, it seems like a temporary condition.  Yet, so many people on SL rush to write poetry and look for their "song" on youtube to post in their profile.  So when this phase runs this course, what happens next?  Does the relationship become an "open relationship"?  (That is code for my partner doesn't come on anymore or has an alt so that she/he doesn't have to talk to me).  Should we just assume in SL a relationship is just something two people do until you are bored?  

      

     

I've been a huge slacker

   You know that you are a slacker when you can not remember the password to your own blog.   It is amazing how time just seems to be flying.  So what has Lola been doing on SL?  Oh I hate to say nothing noteworthy lately.   For a world that can be filled with so many unlimited possibilities, it is so limiting.  I notice lately I have not wanted to make new friends. You just get tired of putting out the effort then a person leaving out of SL boredom.

Profile Surfing

   I am an avid profile "whore".  I noticed after all my time in SL, many people have lost the art of good profile writing.  Sometimes, I will just pick a beach on SL and just read what people write to describe themselves.  After all these years, I have complied a list of profile characteristics of crazy people:

1.  You adorn your profile with those fancy swirls,hearts etc.  This makes profiles hard to read and just means you are afraid to have an empty space in your profile so you are not perceived a loser.

2.  You have a pick dedicated to haters or phony people (fake subs/masters etc.)  Why give them the time of day?  I've been on SL for almost 7 years and yet, don't seem the need to have this.  My question is then...Why are you attracting them?

3.  You have threats if any harm is given to one of your family, friends, spouse, children, pet parrot... yeah..I'm shaking in my virtual boots.....

4.  You are in groups like "Why the fuck are you staring" ...again I wish I was that popular to be in groups like that.

5.  People that have quotes, music lyrics, youtube links only in their profile...or also known as..no unique thought that is their own.

6.  People that dedicate a pick to tell people how to improve their appearance.  These people drive me crazy because I wonder if they do that to people in RL.  You are not giving out some special service to people.

7.  People that have misspellings and poor grammar in their profile.  This drives me crazy because my brain goes into "teacher, self correcting" mode.  I understand that some people are not English native language speakers, but if you are going to speak English, why not have someone proof it for you?  Same goes for people that swear throughout their profile.

8.  People with just sex groups in their profile.  Hey, I respect people's kinks and little things they do for entertainment but it makes me wonder if that is the only thing you do.  I have to admit I do have some respect for a guy that puts in his profile " I really don't have much time on SL, I am here for sex mainly".  ( I honestly have seen this.)   He is upfront with you and not playing any head games.  The men (in my case) who put "I enjoy a intelligent conversation, just im me", then has EVERY group dedicated to sex, I worry about.  I should state when I mean "worry" I mean I talk to you and in the end, you label me a bitch because I just wanted to talk to you.  Then you get upset because you are perceived as shallow. *rolls eyes*

9.  People that have a pick of funny quotes from their friends.  In most cases, it is not as funny to the general SL population as it was to you.  Well, Lola, I didn't put it in for you but for my friends.  Well, resident with the quotes, how many times does your friends read your profile?  I rarely read my friends profiles because I know them already.  ( In a side note, Yes, James, I saw you changed your profile this week).

    I am sure I could come up with more after this has been posted but why drag on :) 

Why I hate groups at times....

      Sorry about my lack of writing lately, I just have been so busy in RL.  I also just recently moved into a new house in SL, and rediscovered the sheer joy of terraforming.    Now the house is done and back to a new hobby.

     Groups on SL drive me crazy at times.  For a month, I dedicated a pick to group annoyances. 

What is the purpose of a group on sl?  It is simple..promotion.  Designers, club owners and social groups use it to inform their special VIPs of things going on in the group.
 Groups are not for:
1.  Spamming: Yes I know the designer sells Lola tangos but I don't want to hear about the boobies in group chat.  I don't want to hear how great they are or LM to get them.  They don't sell the boobies in the store and telling people to go elsewhere to buy them.....cough spamming.
2.  Ask a question:  Get off your lazy arse and read the group owner's profile.  They tell you whom to contact.
3.  Tell the designer how wonderful they are:  Guess what..probably not online to see it.  Send her/him a notecard, rate them on marketplace or write it on the blog.
4.  Telling us whom to aviod and letting me hear about your drama:  You deserve to what you get in chat then.
5.  Spamming a group with an event at isn't happening  at the group sim but justify it because you do some activites at the sim.

     What I noticed lately, a group is for people to simply get attention.   "Look at me, Look at me"  I was sitting one day and received a message on a popular shoe store group:

           SL Resident : can someone show me which wall had the new CHICCA all colors shoes?  I cant see anything cuz the walls have not rezzed for me yet.

    Are you kidding me?  You bothered a group of over 13,000 people with this message?  Here is a hint ...be patient and you will rezz.   Really, it will happen and then you can buy your shoes. 

    So today, I was sitting around on SL not doing much and the one group im started to light up with ims.  That group doesn't bother me as much because it is meant to be a social group/club.  So after awhile I check the messages and I see what started the discussion:

          Swedish Resident: i was kicked from a job - officilally for low traffic but that is bullshit, it is for reminding of the hiroshima bomb at a sim owned by  a patriotic american.
  
   He was not fired from the place that runs this group, but for the lucky 22,779 people that belong to the group, we got to hear how unlucky this guy was.  Two numbskulls actually responded to him while the rest totally ignored him and discussed other things.  So I was trying figure out why someone would even discuss that while djing, so I read his profile. 
     His second life starts with his name and where he is from.  Then goes into how people tell him he should have many sex partners but he doesnt understand how that works.  He goes on to say because he always ends up alone.  See his picks for more information.   Ok so I do....

        " I almost never phone people.  It is because I feel like I disturb them in the fun or the important things that they have and do.  I appreciate so much when someone contact me and ask me how it is, but i know it happens very seldom as I am a not so very important person.  The only time i expect someone to contact me is when they are extremely bored and no one else is available, and I expect them to leave as soon as any other arrive.

Very often I feel very lonesome, but I have to live with that as I am very unimportant and unwanted.  Sometimes one person or another promise to do something with me, but they usually don't keep it as someone else arrive, and naturally the other is more fun to go with.  I am trying to form a life that has good content anyway despite being unwanted. 
I have never really had a good job. It depends on that no one is willing to contact me when there is something around.  Get a job by a job exchange is nothing to think of, as there is always someone better in that competition." 

    *rolls eyes*  I used to feel sorry for people like that in SL in the beginning.  I understand how depression can get the better of you  but this guy does  not want his life to improve.  Why would you post that and expect people run and call you?  Maybe if you didnt wallow in self pity for once... 
     Well his picks get even better.  He goes on in his profile discussing how he had a girlfriend in SL once but she also had a "Master"  Ok , so you got involved with a woman that was with another man?   " one day he abducted her from my bedroom. "  Even if this woman was wearing a collar with RLV , she was still willing to go.   RLV is built into things like BDSM collars or rings. It gives a person or persons control of your avatar.  The person wearing the RLV can decide how much control to give that person through a particular menu.   For my nonBDSM or D/s friends, RLV can be easily shut off.  All you have to do is uncheck it in the advance menu and relog.   TA DA..no more RLV or "control by the master"  She was taken by her own free will and chose not to return to you.  I can't imagine why..with your pleasant personality and all...
     Then my favorite section....Rules for SL women:

1)  Provide her with land, not the cheap homestad I have, but with lots of prims ,cost 18 000 L$.
2) Give her money for clothes, round 300L$ - 400L$ per day is apropriate
3) Wear and change clotes often, 300L$ - 400L$ per day.
That sums up in about 40 000 L$ per month meaning 150 USD and about 1000 SEK.
Ps if you have more than one add 20 000 L$ per woman.  
PPS Now you understand why I am always alone. J am simply broke and noone to care about.

    After reading that I did realize one thing:  James owes me a lot of "fricken" money. 
          40,000 L x 12 months = 480000 L x 4 years = 1,920,000 L
          40,000 L x 6 months =  240,000 L + 1,920,000 L = 2,160, 000 L
                                   2,160,000 L =  $ 8724.24
          Actually looking at it from a dollar standpoint, he is getting a bargain.  I offered him a payment plan.  I will keep you updated on that one. 
   Finally, I get to the part when he decides to criticize Americans.  Granted, I met a few Americans that I cringe when I think I live in the same country as them.  My point is every country has their flaws and skeletons in their closet.  My point,"Swedish meatball", is that before you criticize make sure you understand all sides of history not just your preceived ideas of history.  You criticize a Vietnam Vet, you have to understand that most were drafted to fight.  That means most didn't CHOOSE to go and when they came back, they were called unjustified names.  So you decide to talk your viewpoints about American aggression against the world, you are going to be called on it.  Yes, I know some Amercans get cocky but even I get upset when someone gets in my face about being American.    By the way, if Japan can forgive the United States for bombings in World War II, I think a guy from Sweden should be able.  Just a thought....